SO it has been quite a ride learning about toddler-hood! Why did no one warn me about any of this madness!!?? I got multiple handouts of pearls of wisdom for the first year stages (most of them appreciated ;)....and have had NO advice or warning about potty training, temper tantrums, MMRs, hitting, biting fits, etc. What is the deal people!? Have you all just hidden from theses stages because they are so scary and hideous? Have all you seasoned parents blocked these times out? Or, is it simply that my daughter is just a little bear and giving me a harder time than most kids. While, I do see that she has more energy than the average 20 month old, I do not think she is doing anything too far out of the ordinary.
So I am reading about when to transition from a crib to a toddler bed. She has not (luckily) started to try to scale or torpedo herself out of it yet......knock on wood. But I do feel she is getting ready for the next step. But the articles online and at babycenter.com are not really telling me much. I normally visit babycenter.com regularly, love that site BTW. So advice would be good. I think we will wait until she has already turned two....maybe until we've moved to our new country of Japan before trying that switch. Dunno!
I have to say though...potty training. Ew. I really need help here! It is far worse than I expected. How can I possibly attack this! Mirabelle is telling me when she needs her diaper changed...about half the time. Good sign! She DOES show interest in the potty. She loves her potty books, treats and stickers we do only on the potty. But she simply DOES NOT ever go in the actual potty. She did at first and then completely stopped. She will sit on it all day long, but still only ever goes on the floor or in her diaper. Yeah. My life in a nutshell. Poop on the floor. Slinging diapers. Worse than having a puppy. She could care less about girly panties, pees right in 'um. I am at a loss as to how to have her TELL ME before she has to go. Hopefully we get this by accident! Someday with persistence! Advice is always welcome in that department :)
Alas, her beauty is getting me through. I think the biting has stopped and I believe I taught her this by constantly reinforcing love and being gentle. I personally do NOT agree with spanking in MY household. I do not judge anyone who does in theirs, but in my house there will NEVER be hitting of any kind allowed. Ever. Now... Mirabelle still hits me! I try very, very, very hard to just take a breath and tell her, "Mommy does NOT like to be hit, it hurts Mommy. Instead, please touch mommy like this," and I gently brush her cheek. I enforce what I do NOT allow through words, calmness and opposite actions of the bad actions. I feel good about that so far :) And living with my baby is a gift each day. I have so much gratitude for my soldier husband. He supports me in staying home with her. He likes me home with her. And she makes us laugh constantly. Thank you Mirabelle. Thank you Chad. Thank you all fellow parents who give me good advice.